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February 12, 2008

The ghost who walks... and talks!

Nisha and Gaurav have been friends for six years now and have been dating each other for the last two years. Gaurav had been in love with Nisha from the first time the two had spoken in college. However, with Nisha it had been a bit different.

When she had met Gaurav, Nisha had been in a tumultuous three-year relationship that had left her an emotional wreck. Her ex had been incapable of commitment and had been a serial womanizer. Even while Nisha's trust in relationships and her self-confidence had reached rock bottom, Gaurav stood by her. Once dumped, it took Nisha a year to get over the scars. Gradually, Gaurav's love and patience won and Nisha veered towards him.

The last two years had been bliss for the two: Gaurav got the girl he loved and having seen the uglier side of what a man can be, Nisha knew how good Gaurav was for her. All was well till one day Nisha received an email: Her ex was back in town, full of apologies and requested she meet him once.

Nisha asked Gaurav if he was okay with the idea; he didn't see anything amiss in her meeting the ex once. Nisha met her ex for coffee… That was three months back. Since then, the ex has been in touch with Nisha regularly – through emails, scrapbook messages, phone calls. Each time it happens, Nisha makes it a point to tell Gaurav.

Initially Gaurav let it pass and didn't think much of it. "I knew it was perhaps an ego trip for the ex, he probably was feeling sorry and stupid for letting her go," is what he says. But progressively it started disturbing him… "I trust her, she tells me each time he calls, I know she hasn't met him again, but… They had a very intense relationship. I could understand her meeting him once and closing the chapter, but this keeping-in-touch makes me nervous. They didn't part as friends, it was bitter, so why is she bothering now… Does she still have feelings for him?" he asks, puzzled.

Before you read FURTHER, let me know what YOU think of the situation:
1. Would you be comfortable with your partner being in regular with their ex-lover?
2. If you are in touch with your Ex – and your partner does not like it – what would you do?
3. Is Nisha being foolish, keeping in touch with a man who hurt her badly once?
4. Is Nisha really in love with Gaurav?

Read further: When the past is part of your present

7 comments:

Pointblank said...

1.wont be comfortable. The only reason they were in a relationship was that there was 'something' in it. So it wudn take long to go slip in to ur past.

2.well...Initially I would try to reason with him that its 'different' now n all tat. But deep inside, i wud know it is not and will totally understand his insecurity n stop meeting him!

3.YUP!!!

4.Dont know bout that. Only Nisha can tell. But after a break-up, ur always looking for a shoulder to cry on. And in Nisha's case, her trust was broken, so she can easily fall for anyone who stands by her.

5.Is this fiction or not??

Maxine said...

1.Nope.(But then...reminds me of the handyman who used to come to my house.He has a wife and 5 kids.Of that 3 kids are his wife's and 2 theirs together.He says,they are in a friendly relationship with his wife's ex.)
2.Will stop seeing the partner or the ex.One thing for sure.
3.Yes,if she still have feelings for him.She should concentrate on the hurt.
4.Nope.Of those 6 years...4 years if she did not even think of Gaurav in a romantic way.Friendship gone bad the remaining 2 yrs I think.

pseudolegolas said...

1.Ya (I think so)

2.Will remain in touch (think so......but cant say for sure)

3.No-if she takes care not to make the same mistake twice

4.there is nothing like love..............its another term for need (emotional,financial and/or physical) and Nisha was in need of someone to fill her ex's place (now thats where gaurav came in).

crazyBugga said...

some high level intense stuff over here sista! unqualified to answer these question! [:)]

Anirudh said...

1. Would you be comfortable with your partner being in regular with their ex-lover?
A: May be, if i know the guy is history now.

2. If you are in touch with your Ex – and your partner does not like it – what would you do?
A: Try to keep distance

3. Is Nisha being foolish, keeping in touch with a man who hurt her badly once?
A: Yes, very much

4. Is Nisha really in love with Gaurav?
A: Can't say at this point.

Cyclops said...

I. Would I be comfortable ?
Ans : Realistically speaking, of course not , no way, nyet....

II. What would I do ?
Ans : If I was indeed seeing my Ex, it would only ever occur if I was no longer attached to her, and we would both be comfortable with each other. And I would reassure my partner about that.

As for questions III & IV, once again this "story" also is just too ambiguous for me to give a clear-cut answer. More detail please....

Shady said...

3. Is Nisha being foolish, keeping in touch with a man who hurt her badly once?

Oh yes yes yes yes

4. Is Nisha really in love with Gaurav?

Seems like she was in love now she is in muck