Come, squeeze my butt

"At least am not a social embarrassment. Yet." I wrote those words some posts back and hey, I retract them! I am a social embarrassment, particularly for gentlemen who are stuck with me in a situation where I am going hammer and tongs about something. Friday evening, tried out a new bar, plays electronica, stays open late and fairly (enough) priced... I was happily tripping on the music when one of the men, on his way out, squeezed my arse. It was not a pretend-accidental-brush-past. Nor was it a no-space-hence-my-crotch-is-in-your-crack manouevre. It was a proper squeeze. A one-and-two on the left cheek and a one-and-a-two on the right one. So I caught him by the neck, twisted his arm and threatened physical harm, handed him to the management and threatened further harm. Well that was that.

However, my Friend -- who I was with -- said, "You should let it slide and think that maybe you have a nice butt that asks to be squeezed... and you would not have felt bad if he had been good looking." NOW, for the record, I do not like my arse being grabbed by strange men. For the record too, my reaction MIGHT be different -- read positive -- if the said guy does look extremely good or has a good style. I have had my arse grabbed earlier and the guy smiled back, offered to have his head chopped off for such a crime and insisted he'd still do it again. Grin. I could only laugh at that. Another time, after feeling my arse up, this dude promptly offered his arse to be felt up. Why did he get away? He HAD a gorgeous, grabbable butt! You cannot expect to be gauche, ugly and stupid AND expect to get away grabbing me. Like the dude who felt me up Friday night was slinking away like some cheapshot, Delhi-blue-line-bus-commuter. Therefore, treated him the way he was behaving.

Friend said that when guys go out, a fight is the last thing they look for; however, when women go out, they are busy reacting to this-and-that being touched, leched at, etc. Dude, it DOES happen to women. Even we girls like to go out, down some drinks, chill, laugh and have fun; and it would only be too nice if we could do it without bothering about the losers out to spoil a good evening. There are many a times women -- and me -- would let a grabbing, feeling, sidling incident "slide"... but it's not easy. And then there is the bit about the Typical Delhi Man (TDM). There is no "letting it slide" with a TDM. Because he is not grabbing my arse as perhaps playfullness or as a compliment or anything. The TDM does it because he thinks tat a woman who has stepped out is doing so to advertise her goods. She's wearing whatever she is to accentuate her backside for the TDM's viewing pleasure so that he may squeeze it while mentally picturising gang-banging her with friends.

"Letting it slide" depends so much on the guy, because it's he who makes all the difference between it being a case of a guy-being-a-guy and a guy-being-a-jackass. There are women too, who adverrise their arse-sets to be grabbed; and then either create a scene for attention or whatever-fuck-else reason. I am not advertising; and when I do to Whoever, I would rather enjoy the Whoever grabbing my bum. Till then.... dekho, magar pyar se, aur door se.