tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post6391537350059935914..comments2024-03-01T13:51:17.228+05:30Comments on Emancipation of Eve: Drunk sex is NOT honest sex!Jhoomur aka JBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11863377244719408313noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-18485055052865162902008-04-10T14:28:00.000+05:302008-04-10T14:28:00.000+05:30Never had sex when drunk, so can't comment about t...Never had sex when drunk, so can't comment about that :(. And yes, stupidity is gender and age independent.<BR/><BR/>I'll try to partially answer your question in your comment.<BR/><BR/>Relationships, at times, appear to me to be like the dollar auction game with Mother Nature as the auctioneer. Over time, both the players have invested much that continuing the investment is "natural" and results in the "irrational escalation of commitment". And quite like the dollar auction game, this "investment into the relationship" does not seem to have an equilibrium. Onlookers are often left wondering why is the relationship going on despite the obvious downhill path.<BR/><BR/>Given the dollar auction like situation, it is true that, as Maxine points out in her comment, giving another chance seldom works. And the ability to get out of the relationship is better in the early years when not much has been "invested" :).<BR/><BR/>To answer your question (partially, and assuming the dollar auction game analogy): walking out early is best. And a strange conclusion given this game analogy is that: to defeat the auctioneer (mother Nature who wants us to play the relationships game) is to only put in as much to get the dollar. In other words, relate over short term, get pregnant (propagate the species to satisfy the auctioneer) and separate.<BR/><BR/>Ironically, the short term approach is more natural given that we humans tend to judge each other much superficially (with reference to the content of the <A HREF="http://eveemancipation.blogspot.com/2007/12/good-girls-and-jerk-ing-off.html" REL="nofollow">'Good girls and jerk-ing off'</A> post).<BR/><BR/>A side comment: "Beauty X brains = constant" seems to be gender independent too :). And both are in the "eyes" of the beholder ;). If you can appreciate my brain, I know that your brain is good too ;) haa haa ... <BR/><BR/>Was fun to read this one :). Keep writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-41777981750021777842008-04-10T12:33:00.000+05:302008-04-10T12:33:00.000+05:30Hello Anonymous --> A request, can you please assu...Hello Anonymous --> A request, can you please assume an identity or take up a name instead of being 'anonymous', makes responding and keeping track of who-said-what far easier. <BR/><BR/>Please understand, the attempt here is NOT to man-bash or be pro-women, definitely NOT pro-ALL women or anti ALL men... we are discussing things and topics as and when either a situation arises... <BR/><BR/>Am more than happy to write about what women do... Just that I can write only about things I see na? So if you have things or incidents to share, please feel free, will be more than happy to address said issue. <BR/><BR/>And no, I dont think that the solution to relationship troubles is "getting out". If all of us were constantly getting out at the first signs of trouble, what's the point of ever getting into a relationship? When I say "get out" it's for people stuck in situations where there is OBVIOUSLY no other solution or respite but walking away. When you care for someone -- as a man or woman -- and it's reciprocated and things go awry or trouble arises, we sit down and talk and try and figure ways of salvaging the relationship. <BR/><BR/>As for writing your thoughts, type out what comes to mind without worrying overtly about right/wrong words...we are here to discuss and hopefully find ways in which all of us can be happier wherever we are...men and women. <BR/>rgdsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-89439475302717252282008-04-10T12:14:00.000+05:302008-04-10T12:14:00.000+05:30Ok... have been reading your blogs for quite some ...Ok... have been reading your blogs for quite some time... while you are very pro-women... wot about d guys who maybe really care about sme1 and are in a relationship... women (am sure u wud knw) send out MUCH more confusing signals... a lot of them can be as bad as sex-obsessed men...<BR/><BR/>agreed u'll add me to d stupid category saying dat if one feels dat way one shud get out! But is it really dat easy... more wen i can find find d right words!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-19446630750881755542008-04-09T20:06:00.000+05:302008-04-09T20:06:00.000+05:30This giving another chance seldom works you know.U...This giving another chance seldom works you know.Unless he/she truly have realised it was a stupid mistake and not having you in life would be the biggest mistake.hmm.And that usually does not happen in real life.Movies are so fictional.damn.<BR/><BR/>Even if people tell you what is right or wrong,unless they realise that themselves,they will be in denial.<BR/><BR/>N, nice blog you have.Read your poems,others yet to.Only Eve know the real me.And that was nice.And no am not on the other blog you mentioned.<BR/>Life right now is on the edge.I wanna fall out from the edge forever.When love dies,relation goes upside down and you think of 'using' him/her,its all okay,but never let your emotions die,the will to love again,the strength to live by yourself. damn i dont know what am saying. bye.And this character typing sucks.aeiou?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-78021272347203403912008-04-09T16:05:00.000+05:302008-04-09T16:05:00.000+05:30Raindrop --> Hello...i dont think i've seen you ar...Raindrop --> Hello...i dont think i've seen you around before...Jhoomur aka JBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11863377244719408313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-59531378575104802672008-04-09T16:04:00.000+05:302008-04-09T16:04:00.000+05:30Hmmm.... I would agree that it is NOT just women w...Hmmm.... <BR/><BR/>I would agree that it is NOT just women who get into the "doormat" situation. In fact the way I've seen it, men seem to get it worse from women. While usually men using women falls in either of the two categories: Uses her for sex or uses her for sex AND money; when women "use" men...it gets really bad. Also given the fact that I strongly believe that men find it far TOUGHER to get out of an emotional rut than women.<BR/><BR/>However, a question for you guys ---> When is it working at a relationship and giving the other another chance and when is it a question of walking out, how does one know? Hmm?Jhoomur aka JBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11863377244719408313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-82182773253902472082008-04-09T15:59:00.000+05:302008-04-09T15:59:00.000+05:30with reference to the first part of the post.. i b...with reference to the first part of the post.. i believe most of us don't no where to draw that line of not taking anymore shit, the guy often interprets it as 'u think a lot' syndrome whereas if the girl starts 'ignoring' this also then what the hell is the point in being in a relationship. But seriously we (girls) need to be upfront and learn to say 'NO' otherwise land up being another doormat..raindropshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03410237118431558109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-17910770941787064032008-04-09T13:57:00.000+05:302008-04-09T13:57:00.000+05:30I would like to add to the previous comment by say...I would like to add to the previous comment by saying that the first time I had sex was the time I was drunk… I would never have been able to cross that bridge.<BR/><BR/>Im not saying that I have sex only when im drunk now…its jus that when im done with a couple of drinks it just amazing! [both ways].<BR/>When people say” We hang out together, sometimes, talk on the phone, sometimes and even chat on the net, sometimes and have sex sometimes too” does not really mean that they are emotionally involved .<BR/>There are two ways at looking at this:<BR/>1. that neither one of them are not looking at a complete commitment with one another OR<BR/>2. They have found themselves stuck in a situation that getting emotionally attached is not an option at all.<BR/><BR/>I know a lot of women who get into this “no strings attached situation” but trust me …..most of them find themselves getting hurt. <BR/><BR/>Response to the first half of the blog I would not entirely believe that women are the only ones stupid… I know a lot of men out there who cling on to the misery and the pain they undergo every single day in their relationship. If they do ever get strong and break off all ties, they are then found brooding over what they have lost and what he could have done to save that relationship… I won’t categories this as “STUPIDITY” but just a shear lack of “EMOTIONAL STRENGTH”.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-64198425655673827342008-04-09T12:25:00.000+05:302008-04-09T12:25:00.000+05:30The "pS" was hilarious!! And probably true too!And...The "pS" was hilarious!! And probably true too!<BR/><BR/>And there is no cure for such stupid women! None at all...~nmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483363042572158612noreply@blogger.com