tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post1956162584235361287..comments2024-03-01T13:51:17.228+05:30Comments on Emancipation of Eve: Sleeping with the boss are you?Jhoomur aka JBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11863377244719408313noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-42208674042720937582008-11-05T11:45:00.000+05:302008-11-05T11:45:00.000+05:30Hi I've found all your comments really interesting...Hi I've found all your comments really interesting especially as i'm on the receiving end of it now. A collegue of mine is sleeping with the boss. she's told me herself when drunk but later denied it although i know its true. We are about the same age and since sleeping with him has been given a 7K payrise i shouldn't know about, a PA! and more days holiday than surely possible. i go between jealous and annoyed to thinking if she wants to get naked with that fat old man good luck to her! anyone got any suggestions as to how i can get on a more even keel without getting my legs open?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-54874116900471866602008-04-04T22:00:00.000+05:302008-04-04T22:00:00.000+05:30maxine: writing exclusively etc......shhh....chup ...maxine: writing exclusively etc......<BR/><BR/>shhh....chup ho jao yaar. <BR/><BR/>You are just too funny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-87425671679909824112008-04-04T18:17:00.000+05:302008-04-04T18:17:00.000+05:30maxine.gawd@gmail.com may mummy help.world is inde...maxine.gawd@gmail.com <==fresh from the oven.<BR/><BR/>may mummy help.world is indeed small.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-37363952690020348442008-04-04T12:55:00.000+05:302008-04-04T12:55:00.000+05:30This character is also a woman. :DSend me your ema...This character is also a woman. :D<BR/>Send me your email id. I shall send you the blog link.<BR/>:D<BR/>I said i am not worried about you finding out.<BR/>It's the others who might judge me for the things i said and admitted to. I am sure we don't know each other. and if we do....mummmmyyyyy help...world is small.<BR/><BR/>'N'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-46546847423676392862008-04-04T11:33:00.000+05:302008-04-04T11:33:00.000+05:30I saw a comment by N on another blog,yup a female ...I saw a comment by N on another blog,yup a female blogger's.Thought it must be you.Thats all.Wont search.Relax.And I'm not regular anywhere with this name other than here.Maxine was born in Eve's blog and might as well die here.No hurry though.Then writes not so regularly for fbm exclusively elsewhere.haha.<BR/><BR/>This character is a woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-62688633141915990602008-04-04T10:31:00.000+05:302008-04-04T10:31:00.000+05:30No you haven't.Or maybe You have...hint: I comment...No you haven't.Or maybe You have...hint: I comment regularly at a blog of another kickass female blogger regularly and I have seen you there all the time. ButHas it occured to you that my name might or might not start with an N.<BR/>Mwah.<BR/>Keep searching.<BR/>I am not hiding from you. I am hiding from people who might know me already.<BR/>And my blog is BORING. <BR/>'N'<BR/>P.S if it's not too personal, Maxine is a boy or girl?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-27450241096076711662008-04-04T09:20:00.000+05:302008-04-04T09:20:00.000+05:30fbm, I do drink coffee.Though occasionally now.Kee...fbm, I do drink coffee.Though occasionally now.Keeping away is when you love something so much,right?<BR/>hmm....next birth is filled out,lets try in this one itself!<BR/>Will write about the big day.nothing exciting though.good to catch you.takecare.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-77100039524380156742008-04-04T08:52:00.000+05:302008-04-04T08:52:00.000+05:30Thanx Avijit, for your encouraging words, though i...Thanx Avijit, for your encouraging words, though i had to quit/ throw away many a "jobs". The most kinky one was once many years ago when an ex boss's wife started to eye me & asked for a back rub........ oops, did'nt i have to make a rapid exit !!<BR/><BR/>But i have always been a pillar with whom i work with or with my ny friends, that's why professinally i am in the dumps at the moment.<BR/><BR/>maxine: Sure, it would be great working together...... next life time may be !! but i thought you don't drink coffee, i like the coffee i make myself..... though i don't mind the tea you have written about !!Btw, What's the Big D day about ??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-4084083527016684902008-04-03T18:37:00.000+05:302008-04-03T18:37:00.000+05:30omg! am I living in a prison!The comments at the o...omg! am I living in a prison!The comments at the other thread and here.Everybody is sleeping with somebody...and here I am 'not fitting in' anywhere!!I need a boob job!!!<BR/><BR/>'N'if you comment everywhere as 'N'then..I think i found your blog. (Wicked grin).If not, I take the wickedness back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-84460880624042504202008-04-03T11:20:00.000+05:302008-04-03T11:20:00.000+05:30Crimson feet: Unfortunately, one does to have to w...Crimson feet: Unfortunately, one does to have to worry about who is sleeping with whom, no matter how well you do your job, holistically or otherwise. That's an angle that can always trip you up. And not sleeping around could be a reason for professional failure if you have the misfortune to come up against bosses who want their pound of flesh no matter what your competencies.<BR/><BR/>fbm: Old fashioned is good. they are the tried and tested methods that have worked. And it's great that you have integrity. If socialising with people after work is not your cup of tea, so be it. That does limit some possibilities for you but if you're fine with that and it suits your personality, great.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-54485220815675196882008-04-03T10:27:00.000+05:302008-04-03T10:27:00.000+05:30Fbm has made a very interesting point here....do w...Fbm has made a very interesting point here....<BR/>do we have sex at workplace because the workplace is boring and dull or the work is monotonous.<BR/>because even if i choose to sleep with my boss or even a co worker some day it will because i find the man sexually desirable. it hadn't occured to me that sex can spice the lives of those who are stuck in boring jobs...<BR/>just wondering if that is also a reason?<BR/>'N'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-331950856676385872008-04-03T10:05:00.000+05:302008-04-03T10:05:00.000+05:30Dear Crimson !! good luck to you mate.. i throw th...Dear Crimson !! good luck to you mate.. i throw the white flag. (peace)<BR/><BR/>I am a bit ole' fashioned, & prefer to be very boring & i am like a monk at work, work excites me & not sex. <BR/><BR/>Plus, i just hate any hierarchy,i can't help it sometimes i feel more capable than the so called boss & if some one junior to me does something better than me i would see to it that he/she gets the credit for it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-23977389268350479962008-04-02T20:53:00.000+05:302008-04-02T20:53:00.000+05:30@ Eve --- ;) Feel free to quote me with that line....@ Eve --- ;) Feel free to quote me with that line.<BR/><BR/>@ Anonymous N --- Thanks for the support shown. "Him" here.<BR/><BR/>@ fbm --- Success is multifaceted and comes to those who can display an all round competence in life. The core point being that good interpersonal skills and managing relationships are as necessary as knowing how to do your math.<BR/>A manager needs to know his people as human beings in order to successfully work with them and achieve results. Even among colleagues, its important to know them as people (I recommend that you get to know your office people better and spend more time with them).<BR/><BR/>The above approach also exposes you to sexual possibilities, and there onwards its two 'adults' interacting and not two colleagues. I agree with Eve that the word goes around, and no amount of discreetness helps, so one must be ready to face that.<BR/><BR/>(Eve... I know I have strayed from the point but i wanted to share it.)<BR/><BR/>@ avijit (and fbm too)<BR/><BR/>As I have already indicated, just sleeping around is not a reason for professional success and similarly, <B>not sleeping around isn't a reason for professional failure</B>. One must face the reality and develop a holistic competence in life and then, trust me, they wouldn't need to worry about who is sleeping around with whom!Crimson Feethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04067610255441440761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-90720206738441081002008-04-02T18:25:00.000+05:302008-04-02T18:25:00.000+05:30This 'personal choice' business is overrated. Rapi...This 'personal choice' business is overrated. Raping is also a personal choice, but that doesn't make it right. What we are hopefully debating here are the repurcussions of actions which include personal choices and where these personal choices become abhorrent / harmful to the rest of society or the people they affect. And thus a modification of our own behaviour to obviate the effects of these personal choices.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-75811396910893523212008-04-02T18:08:00.000+05:302008-04-02T18:08:00.000+05:30Ummm...I think it seemed like i was rooting for sl...Ummm...I think it seemed like i was rooting for sleeping with boss for promotion. i really need to learn to articulate myself better...<BR/>okay i admit i also think sleeping for a professional reason is a short cut i do not endorse it but i am also trying NOT to judge it either, i was JUST irked by fbm's whiny, i am such a hard worker and you all have easy lives sob sob sob...<BR/>okay fbm, don't get personal and i shall apologise for the tone of my comment but maybe not the content...<BR/><BR/> 'N'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-3669536309492698922008-04-02T17:41:00.000+05:302008-04-02T17:41:00.000+05:30This is getting interesting. It's a good debate so...This is getting interesting. It's a good debate so let us all stick to debating the POINT than each others' morality or lack of it? <BR/><BR/>While I don't completely disagree with FMB -- am yet to sleep with any of my bosses, also no boss has ever propositioned me -- I dont see anything wrong in mixing professional and personal. <BR/><BR/>I'm all for people having affairs at work... provided those are personal associations. Meaning, sleeping around with the CEO, the boss, his/her secretary or how many ever you want to is a matter of personal choice. You might/ not choose it; but you really cannot judge anyone else for it. <BR/><BR/>Not all success stories are met by sleeping around and neither does all sleeping around lead to success. <BR/><BR/>Vis-a-vis office affairs, someone wants it, someone gives it, sometimes its mutual. What bothers me though about the sleeping-for-promotion (SFP) is how it COULD undermine someone else's hard work. So someone won't get good assignments because s/he wouldn't share non-veg jokes with the boss? Or go out for drinks?<BR/><BR/>Like Avijit points out: Is there not a Favourite status granted to someone the boss is sleeping with? Of course the info will not be circulated in an office memo, but it does happen. It is a funny situation and there is a reason why the corporate world (or any other for that matter) is called a rat race: There are a number of tactics to be employed. <BR/><BR/>Personally, 9 years in the media have taught me to keep personal and professional AS FAR AWAY from each other as possible. Affairs are a definite no-no (learnt the hard way), friendships - even with the same sex - should be carefully chosen. <BR/><BR/>The world is shrinking and while 6 degrees of separation might mean that everyone eventually knows everyone; it also means that everyone will eventually know most things about you. <BR/><BR/>Also once you get into the rut of sleeping around with boss(es)-- and here I speak completely from a woman's point of view, dont know many men who've suffered sexual harassment, would be interested in talking to cases though -- word gets around; and even in a situation you might NOT want to have sex with a particular boss, you'd have to compromise. <BR/><BR/>Girls more than guys need to remember that when you are just a shag for someone, you are usually being discussed. Is one meagre promotion really worth a lifetime's professional reputation down the drain or under the covers?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-41991767468180823802008-04-02T17:19:00.000+05:302008-04-02T17:19:00.000+05:30fbm,I'm sure I would enjoy working with you :)A co...fbm,I'm sure I would enjoy working with you :)<BR/>A coffee without sex in mind...that would be such a relaxed moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-72947838924690216412008-04-02T16:23:00.000+05:302008-04-02T16:23:00.000+05:30Anonymous / 'N' : It is sillier to assume that bos...Anonymous / 'N' : It is sillier to assume that bosses are NOT giving employees promotions/ bonuses/ increments whatever becaus the latter are sleeping with them. You mean an employee doesn't have an unfair advantage because he / she is sleeping with the boss? Sleeping around substantiated with some other kind of value?! Sleeping with the boss becomes / is the main value when you are sleeping with the boss. The rest is just enough work or show of work to covers ass. And anybody who sleeps with the boss becomes a power centre his/himself. Business sense? The business sense lies in giving the one you are sleeping around with credit for the work others have done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-38875202660854413622008-04-02T12:28:00.000+05:302008-04-02T12:28:00.000+05:30Fbm, feeling sorry for ourselves, are we? Maybe IF...Fbm, feeling sorry for ourselves, are we? <BR/>Maybe IF you read crimson's first comment you'd realise that you made a faux pas by addressing your last comment to her/him!<BR/>Crimson did say, shagging boss minus the pleasure would be akin to prostitution.<BR/>Rather admirable that you work hard and slog at work but if ONLY your comprehension was better, you'd get that promotion minus sleeping with boss also.<BR/>You know it is silly to assume that bosses are giving employees bonuses/promotions/increments whatever because the latter are sleeping with them. because UNLESS the sleeping around is substantiated with some other kind of value that the said employee brings to the company, sleeping around won't be reason enough! It's just not good business sense!!!<BR/>so maybe when you are feeling less martyr like and holier than thou, you'd like to think about it a little more deeply...<BR/><BR/>'N'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-81430675326773752542008-04-02T11:12:00.000+05:302008-04-02T11:12:00.000+05:30fbm. another thought. Don't lose faith as you stru...fbm. another thought. Don't lose faith as you struggle. Assuming you are also a hard worker and get along with people, the company will recognise your professional worth over time, specially when crunch time arrives and they need a capable person to handle it. And crunch times will keep coming and with each one you handle to the best of your ability you will grow in professional stature. It may take a little longer but you will get your professional due. Just stick to being who you are. All the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-61391159120190502162008-04-02T10:56:00.000+05:302008-04-02T10:56:00.000+05:30fbm. I second you.fbm. I second you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-25733519983592618262008-04-02T10:43:00.000+05:302008-04-02T10:43:00.000+05:30ok Crimson, guess that's why you guys are very suc...ok Crimson, guess that's why you guys are very succesful in your pusuits. <BR/><BR/>I prefer not to have anything personal with the people whom i work with, not even a cup of coffee, just do the work to the best of one's ability & get out..........'guess that is why i struggle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-32083228045588132922008-04-02T02:54:00.000+05:302008-04-02T02:54:00.000+05:30Sleeping with the Boss is for profession or for pe...Sleeping with the Boss is for profession or for personal gains is OK. <BR/><BR/>End of the day what it all boils down to is sweaty sex. But of course, You have to keep your standards. I just won't sleep with anyone. <BR/><BR/>I am a guy, I am now 27, I slept with my (female) boss's or with their female peers who had enough influence over my boss. <BR/><BR/>I did this all across my early twenties. <BR/><BR/>I didn't get 100% gains but I did get good raises and I was getting laid, once or twice a week, which is a good thing (tm)<BR/><BR/>In retrospect, I really don't think I did anything wrong. I gave a good company to a married older lady and made her happy by working hard in the office and outside the office. <BR/><BR/>And this possibly saved her marriage. <BR/><BR/>*moral high ground *cough* .<BR/><BR/>So moral of the story, lying down<BR/>is a fun place to be - even if you don't climb the success ladder. <BR/><BR/>Btw, @author of the blog. I like your style of writing and ideas. You represent the perfect embodiment of what I would like the modern Indian woman to be. <BR/><BR/>And I love you for that. <BR/><BR/>Great work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-22851877037897369502008-04-01T17:49:00.000+05:302008-04-01T17:49:00.000+05:30lolI didnt say its not desirable.We spend most tim...lol<BR/>I didnt say its not desirable.<BR/><BR/>We spend most time in school, we make ever lasting friends or fall in love etc.We spend most time at work,same thing happens but now most would have settled down and has a family etc which would stop them from taking that extra step or doing everything undercover.And now we spend most time online too,so...same things happen.<BR/>hmm. break. :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34788771.post-34320261594251624912008-04-01T17:21:00.000+05:302008-04-01T17:21:00.000+05:30'Very risky if you give your heart out'Truer words...'Very risky if you give your heart out'<BR/>Truer words were never spoken. on this topic.<BR/>hmmm<BR/><BR/>'N'<BR/><BR/>p.s : and what is a blog friend? and why is not desirable, maxine?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com